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Jul
Blood-Letting and Healthy Sexuality; Part Two


From Part One:

Safety First!

The average human body contains approximately 5 litres of blood1, this amount is required in order for blood to perform all of its life-giving functions and assist in maintaining homeostasis as it circulates throughout the body. Never take more blood than is necessary and/or safe. During a donation, Canadian Blood Services takes 450mL (or 1 pint) of blood2; this works out to roughly 9% of the blood in your body (based on the approximate measure of 5 litres). This is the absolute maximum that you can draw at one time, and it’s only safe because when donating blood, you are surrounded by nurses who have all the skills and equipment necessary to help you should an emergency arise. Since you’re going to be blood-letting at home and I can only assume that you don’t possess the same equipment as a blood donor clinic in your home (apart from a first aid kit), I strongly suggest that you take even less than 450mL. I would suggest setting the at-home maximum blood draw amount at 100mL (approximately 7 tablespoons), which is roughly 2% of the total amount in your body, IF you’re feeling comfortable with your first aid skills. If not, then take even less. We strongly recommend that you, and (all of) your bloodplay partner(s), take a CPR and/or First Aid course and receive your certification before you begin experimenting with bloodletting. This is not only for your partner's safety, but for yours as well.

 

 

Part Two: Safety and Methods

Things You Need In Order To Practice Blood-Letting Safely:

1)      Clean Bill of Health from ALL Partners!

This means that all parties who intend to be bleeding, or in any way exposed to blood, must have been recently tested for all blood-borne pathogens and those tests must have come back negative for everything for which the person was screened. Once you’ve been tested, it will take roughly two weeks for the results to come back (it depends on what pathogen you are being screened for, and whether or not the samples have to be sent to a lab to be screened versus if the samples are tested on site). In any case, until you get the results back, do not engage in any sexual activities and/or blood-letting (except for masturbating, that’s fine).

2)      Consent!

This is not something that you can do without your partner’s consent. Do not surprise your partner by suddenly cutting them, or yourself. Do not ask your partner for consent in the heat of passion; this must be planned out ahead of time, with all parties involved aware of what to expect. 

3)      Clean Mouths and Bodies – applies to BOTH Partners!

Shower or bathe prior to any sexual activities, especially blood-letting, and wash with an anti-bacterial soap or body wash, preferably fragrance-free. This is to remove any bacteria from the site from which the blood is drawn, and the site to which blood will be applied (your body or your mouth). If you’re going to be drinking your partner’s blood straight from a wound, you need to make sure that your mouth is as clean as possible; human mouths can carry a lot of bacteria and that is not something that you want to introduce into your partner’s blood stream. Basically, you don’t want the wound to get infected; so take steps to make sure that doesn’t happen!  Brush your teeth 1 to 2 hours prior to exposure, and then rinse your mouth with mouthwash within at least 10 minutes of exposure.

4)      Constant Communication With Your Partner!                                                                            

As previously mentioned, if you and your partner do not have good communication skills, you should not even think to practice blood-letting. Otherwise you may end up hurting each other and/or crossing each other’s boundaries.

5)      A First Aid Kit and the Ability to Use It!

You will need a first aid kit in order to properly care for the wounds inflicted during blood-letting, but also in case an emergency should arise. If you do not have a first aid kit, and if you are not completely familiar with how to use all of the equipment inside it, do not engage in blood-letting. Period.

6)      CPR and/or First Aid Certification (for ALL Partners)!

Once again, in case an emergency should arise, you need to know how to handle it. Check yourself and your partner into a CPR class; get a CPR and/or First Aid certificate (both is better). They’re well worth the price if it means you could potentially save a life.

7)      Sterile, Disposable Equipment!

All of your equipment must be either disposable or easily sterilized. You must sterilize your equipment both before and after each use. Unless you have an autoclave at home, I suggest you invest in mainly disposable equipment. You can find scalpels, razor blades, and/or lancets (if those are what you’ll be working with) online; if this is the route you’d like to go, you must also purchase bio-hazard sharps containers (like the kind you see at the doctor’s office), which can also be found online. To find out where to bring your containers once they’re full, please contact your local Health Region. (The Saskatoon Health Region can be reached at 655-7500). For examples of different types of disposable lancets, you can visit this website:  http://www.watl.bham.ac.uk/WASP/LANCETS/Single~1.htm.

8)      Sanitation and Sterilization Equipment

For any equipment and surfaces that are not disposable, sterilization is a must. You must have the room in which the blood-letting will be taking place fully cleaned and sanitary as well (if you don’t want blood on your bed, buy a tarp or plastic sheets for the purpose and lay it out on the bed; after use, dispose of the tarp/sheets).  Alcohol, peroxide, chloride dioxide, an autoclave, are all perfectly viable options for sterilizing non-disposable equipment; everyone has hand sanitizer these days (a good thing in my books!) so keep some close at hand when you’re going to be engaging in blood-letting.

Methods of Sterilization

1)      It is important that you know how to prepare sterilized water. It’s very simple and is the safest way to rinse your non-disable equipment. You will need:

•bottled water

•a pressure cooker (or autoclave)

•aluminum foil

•a thermometer.

Loosen the cap of the bottle, to prevent the bottle from bursting during this process. Cover the cap and neck of the bottle with aluminum foil, to prevent bacteria from getting on the neck and lip of the bottle. In a pressure cooker (or autoclave, if you’ve got one), heat the bottle of water for 20 minutes at 121 degrees Celsius. Let it all cool completely and, with the aluminum foil still in place, tighten the cap (once it’s nice and tight you can remove the foil). You can store this bottle for as long as you want, and it will still be sterile. When opening the pressure cooker/autoclave, please open the lid away from your face! Even if the machine has cooled down, there could still be steam that may rush out and potentially cause harm.

2)      Alcohol and/or Peroxide and/or Chloride Dioxide for your non-disposable equipment: The minimum concentration for alcohol is 60%, though a higher concentration is, of course, preferred. The minimum concentration for hydrogen peroxide is 6%. Soak your non-disposable equipment in the liquid for a minimum of 6 hours. Remove (while wearing gloves [latex or nitrile]) and rinse with sterilized water.

Methods of Drawing Blood

Now that we’ve covered the bases when it comes to safety (which is an absolute MUST with blood-letting), we will look at different methods of sharing blood.

1)      Cutting – With the greatest of care, and only with the consent of your partner, either you or your partner may use a surgical-grade blade to make a shallow cut (being careful to avoid any veins/arteries) somewhere on the body. If the person being cut does not want any visible marks, choose a spot that will not be seen by the general public, potentially on the buttocks. Because of the risk of cutting tendons, muscles, veins and/or arteries, please do not cut the inner thighs, the forearms, the neck, or ankles. You want this to be a superficial nick on the skin, not an attempt at severing limbs. If the person does not want scars due to blood-letting, please use an anti-scar cream as part of the aftercare process. As an alternative to blades, you can also use stainless steel finger armor, which (if its point is sharp enough) can be used to prick the skin like a lancet, or make a shallow scratch. Finger armor is a kind of jewellery which is worn like a ring, and typically acts as an extension of the fingernail; some are very fancy, some are very plain, almost all are sharp enough for this purpose (if you choose to look this product up on the Internet, don't be surprised by all the Gothic jewellery links that will turn up in your search - they mean you're on the right track). Please use only stainless steel, titanium, or niobium finger armor, as opposed to gold and/or silver, as the aforementioned metals are medical-grade material and are body-safe, whereas gold, silver, and other precious metals are not and could cause an allergic reaction and/or infection.  

2)      Extraction/Drawing Blood With NeedlesNot unless you have medical training! If you are not a phlebotomist (if you have to look up what that means, then you aren’t one – don’t even try to pretend), you should not ever attempt to extract blood from your partner with a needle. The risk is too high that you could cause serious, potentially permanent and/or fatal (which is pretty permanent) injury to your partner.

3)      Biting – If your teeth are sharp enough, and if your partner is comfortable with the pain that will accompany such a hard bite, you can bit your partner until they bleed. Choose a place that’s reasonably comfortable for your partner. Usually, when biting is practiced, the point is to get more flesh than skin (biting feels better when you do it that way); in this case, though, you want to get some skin between your teeth and bite down hard until you break the skin. You can also worry at the skin by rubbing your teeth back and forth. You can even purchase porcelain fangs for this purpose; they come in a variety of styles, can be molded to fit your teeth, and are quite sharp and sturdy. They can also be part of a scene when you’re blood-letting (if you happen to like vampires and/or werewolves, you can roleplay as one).

4)      Whipping – If you’re not experienced with a whip, and if your partner is not interested in being whipped hard enough to bleed, you should not use this method for drawing blood. However, if you and your partner are curious about testing this method, both of you should enroll in a whipping class so that you’ll both have the same skills and knowledge involved. Yes, there are such things as whipping classes. Investigate your local kink community (every city has one, trust me) and see if there are any experts within said community who are offering such classes, or would be willing to teach you and your partner. If you’re in Saskatoon, you can come to our BDSM workshops here at Positive Passions. Whips and how to use them are introduced in Part 2 of the BDSM workshop and you have to attend Part 1 in order to attend Part 2. The kind of whip you’d need to break skin would have to have very sturdy straps, preferably noticeably heavy (weight-wise); thick or thin straps, multiple or just one strap, whip or riding crop, all should be able to break skin with proper technique, so long as they are “heavy” enough. For example, a horsehair whip will sting, and might even break skin – if you continuously whip the exact same place for an hour or more, with your full force behind each strike. This is exhausting and painful for both partners. This is so because each hair of the whip is so light; the fact that they’re thin doesn’t really matter, it’s just the weight of each hair that prevents horsehair whips from being useful for blood-letting.  And the kinds of breaks in the skin these whips could cause would probably end up feeling like a mix between cat scratches and/or paper cuts; over a large surface such as the back, this is not going to be pleasant during the healing process.

Aftercare

After blood-letting, both of you need to make sure that you’re well taken care of. If you have any wounds on your body, see to them: you’ve got a first aid kit close at hand (otherwise you wouldn’t be engaging in blood-letting), so use it. Clean, bandage, and apply an antiseptic/antibiotic cream (such as Polysporin) to all open wounds; use an anti-scar cream if you would like to. If you’ve had blood in your mouth, go and rinse your mouth with an antiseptic mouthwash. Sterilize your equipment and anything that’s come into contact with the equipment and/or blood, dispose of anything that can’t be sterilized, wash and sterilize your hands.

Both partners should be involved in the aftercare process of each other, as well as themselves – this is true immediately after blood-letting, and during the whole aftercare process (which pretty much takes as long as it takes, and will be different for every person). During the process, follow up with your partner; ask what s/he thought or felt about the experience. Tenderness and expressing everything that you both feel and think about the experience in an open and honest way are just as important after blood-letting as taking care of the physical body. If you noticed emotions coming up during the experience, communicate them to your partner. Claim those emotions; meaning, instead of “You made me feel (emotion),” say, “At (point in time during the experience), I felt (emotion).” If there’s anything you would like to do differently next time, or if you don’t want there to be a next time, please communicate this to your partner, and, if possible, give your reasons why. If the reason is something as simple as “blood-letting’s just not for me,” that’s absolutely fine and you should feel free to express that. If it’s something deeper, you definitely need to express that to your partner. Just remember to use “I” statements; “I thought/think […],” “I felt/feel […],” et cetera. As your partner is expressing everything, please listen and be thoughtful, understanding and compassionate; put yourself in their shoes.

If both of you really enjoyed it and are excited about doing so again, great! Please allow all wounds to heal, allow all issues/feelings/thoughts that you may need to discuss to be fully discussed, before you engage in blood-letting again. This is a very deep, revealing, and personal experience for most people and you may discover that issues, emotions, thoughts, et cetera, will continue to pop up for the next few days (even weeks) after blood-letting and you need to let them; in this way you can learn more about yourself (and your partner) and grow together.


By: Alicia


Notes:

1.       “Bloodletting”. Brought To Life: www.sciencemuseum.org.uk. N.p. N.d. Web. May 3rd, 2012. 2.       “Frequently Asked Questions – Donors”. Canadian Blood Services: www.blood.ca. N.p. N.d. Web. May 15th, 2012.

 



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